Though we are a few days past Father’s Day, I wanted to share a few thoughts that have been running through my mind. Each Sunday our Pastor reads a passage of Scripture during the beginning of the service, before he gets to the message. On Sunday, he read from Colossians 3. Though it wasn’t the text of his sermon, the verses were applicable to fathers.
Colossians 3:12-24 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. 14 And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness. 15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. 17 And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. 21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; 24 Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.
As I have watched my husband interacting with our four children recently, I have felt overwhelmingly blessed that he is striving to be a Biblical father and husband.
A Biblical Father:
- Seeks the things that are above – (verse 1-3). Realizing that he is seated with Christ, he lives and enjoys all of the benefits of the Christ life while walking here on earth.
- Lives the attributes of Christ in his daily life – holiness, mercy, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering. My husband is far more patient with our children than I am, showing them mercy while being consistent in discipline.
- Lets peace rule his heart – not at strife or quarrel with others; at peace knowing that whatever God has allowed is God’s will for his life right now. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed and I say “I can’t handle this.” Ben always responds by reminding me that I can handle it because God has allowed it. “In acceptance lieth peace”, and when we accept this as God’s will for us for now, His peace rules in the heart.
- Dwells in the Word of God – makes that quiet time a priority. With four little children in the house, its hard to find a consistent time of peace and quiet. But the Biblical father will always find it, knowing that if he is to lead his family in spiritual things, he must walk in God’s Word.
- Takes care of his wife – sometimes the best thing my husband can do for our children to take care of me. Many times when I am overwhelmed, stressed, sick, or just tired and have had a rough day, he sends me out of the house for a while to have some quiet time just to myself. He takes care of things at home so I can come back re-charged to fulfill my duties in the home. Though I know he loves me all the time, at these times when he shows extra care for me, I feel especially loved.
- Lovingly disciplines, without provoking to anger – with consistency and in the Biblical manner, the Godly father will discipline his children as he molds their character according to God’s Word. Our children are learning from their Daddy to be polite, use manners, exhibit kindness and sharing, and obey. Sometimes its hard to discipline them over and over again for the same thing, but the Biblical Father does it because he takes his responsibility seriously. He also recognizes that it will serve them well in the future.
- Leads the home in spiritual things – it’s exciting to me to see my husband teach our children about the things of God. Elaine was wearing a shirt that said “Praise the Lord.” Daddy took the opportunity to teach her what praise means, and then he reinforced it several times throughout the day. Both of my older children are starting to pray on their own, without promptings, and to understand some things in family devotions.
Ben also tries to make sure I get some moments for quiet time with the Lord even when things seem to be spinning out of control at home. And many times I get a call or a text at random points through the day to tell me he is praying for me…especially when my day is difficult. He may not be here to assist me with an extra set of hands as I care for the kiddos, but he has done something far more helpful in bringing me before the Heavenly Father in prayer.
I’m thankful for the husband God gave me, and the father that he is to our children. They have a special Daddy, for sure, and one day they will realize just how blessed they are!